Mother’s Day On the Hard Days

This Mother’s Day seems to be harder than the last few years. My mother has been in heaven for 14 years. Fourteen years without her.

Some days are harder and some are easier.

Last year at this time I barely had time to think of her or the days since she’s been gone. We were closing on our house and I was packing up where I had grieved her in the beginning days… days of crying and not wanting to get dressed… days when I longed for conversations with her but settled for talking to the ceiling, hoping she listened.

In those beginning days, grief buried me in. Breathing was difficult and every celebration and holiday brought a new flood of tears. I became weary of weeping.

Those days I remember.

This year I have stood and cried in the crowd at funerals. Not just for the sadness of those now gone but my eyes move toward the family standing in the front knowing of their difficult journey ahead.

My heart hurts for them.

My heart hurts for the days when they’ll miss conversations and instead settle for words spoken into the air. Days when the chair opposite them is hollow, empty… and anyone sitting there won’t fill the void.

I remember those days.  I still have those days.  Not as many and not as often yet they still happen and they’re still there… those days I remember and it hurts.


The trees in my yard are blooming and all that is meant to live is coming alive again.

In the spring, I’m reminded that things buried over and submerged in the ground will rise to bloom and grow again.

This Mother’s Day you may feel buried and submerged in grief. Deep thoughts and heavy tears may fill your head and spill over. It’s okay to let them fall.

  • It’s good to remember
  • It’s good to process
  • It’s good to grieve

Through grief you will live again. All that buries you underneath will give way to life and joy will emerge. You will come up from this dark place and bloom again.

Winter passes and the nourishing time of rest and grieving you give yourself will strengthen you to live again.

Not only can we give ourselves rest but we can lean into God’s grace.

“It is the Lord who goes before you. He will be with you; He will not leave you or forsake you.” (Deuteronomy 31:8 ESV)

“Even though I walk through the darkest valley, I will fear no evil for you are with me.” (Psalm 23:4 NIV)

“I can do all things through Him who gives me strength.” (Philippians 4:13 NIV)

Mother’s Day can be hard for many and for different reasons.

Today, can I encourage you?

On those difficult days of loss and hard living remember there is more life for you to live. This is not the end… though it may feel it right now… It is not the end but a different beginning.  There is more growing and more blooming days ahead.

You will emerge.

You will bloom again.


Linking up with: #InspireMeMonday

12 thoughts on “Mother’s Day On the Hard Days

  1. I missed my mother yesterday too. 😦 She’s been gone 7 years but it doesn’t feel like that long. I have bittersweet feelings about Mother’s Day (and have for awhile–I lost a baby girl years ago). Your encouragement is truthful: “There is more growing and more blooming days ahead.” Thanks for sharing, Rachel.


  2. I wish I had seen this sooner – I have a few friends that needed this on Mother’s Day. It’s a joyful day, but for those that have lost, it can be so painful. I am thankful for the promise of an eternity with Jesus – in the meantime, it still hurts. I’m fortunate to have my mom still, but miss my dad terribly. God bless!


    • Thank you, Carol, for stopping by and jumping in. Yes, it can be a hard day and grief comes in waves. It’s good to know that it is not constant and to ride it well and in a healthy way when it hits. Thanks again for stopping by. Blessings!


  3. Rachel,
    Thank you for sharing your journey of grief and how hard it is…Thank you for sharing the hope of joy and blooming again.

    I’ve been wanting to visit you so I was happy to find your avatar at Lisa’s blog so I could visit you. Blessings 🙂


  4. It is a club none of us wants to join–those of us who have lost parents–and yet most of us do eventually. And it’s impossible to explain what lies ahead, you’re right. I cook dinners for the family, send flowers, cards. It all feels so inadequate.

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    • That is a good way to reach out to others who are grieving. I remember after my mother passed away a friend brought by a bag of all kinds of things I never would have that of but it was great. It was full of paper plates, plastic silverware, toilet paper and frozen homemade meals. It was great because we didn’t have to do dishes and with all kinds of people stopping over and relatives staying over it’s amazing all the things you run out of quickly. 😉 Thanks for stopping over and jumping in!

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